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Get Back on Track When You’re Out of Alignment
(Friday, April 29th, 2016)

Get Back on Track When You’re Out of Alignment

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Have you ever had one of those weeks where everything and everyone rubbed you the wrong way? I’m not talking about big earth-shattering problems, I’m talking about little annoyances.  You get on the wrong line at the supermarket behind the woman who is reading each item and checking the price. You are running late but the car in front of you is moving slow in the fast lane. Your friends or family irritate you and put you on the defense. You are about to walk out the door and you spill your coffee down the front of your shirt. You don’t know what it is exactly, but it feels like the universe is conspiring against you, and it feels like one damn thing after the other.

This is the feeling of being out of alignment. All these little annoyances are signs begging you to slow down, pay attention, and get back in touch with yourself and the present moment. You have lost your center and the true essence of who you are. You don’t have to struggle and fight each and every day. There is a more peaceful and centered way to live.

Yet what most people do during times like this is place blame, focus their energy outward and wonder why things like this always happen to them. If you pay attention during these times you can almost feel your heart wanting to close. You want to curl up somewhere and make the world go away. You feel physically and emotionally depleted and you wish the world would just slow down and cut you a break. My advice when you want to shut down is to do exactly the opposite. Stay open. Instead of looking outward, I want you to look inward. Life knocks and pecks at all of us from time to time, no one is off limits. Your happiness and peacefulness depend on your ability to cope, re-adjust, and get back on track. Here are three tips that will help you regain your center.

1. ALLOW THE MOMENT TO BE AS IT IS.
When you fight what is already happening in the moment, you create more stress for yourself. The past is the past, and no amount of cursing or huffing and puffing about it is going to change it. Step back, take a few deep breaths and allow the moment to be. Accept that is has happened. This may sound trite, but too often we struggle in our own minds with what we think “should” have happened and this creates mental tension. This tension shows up as stress and strain on our bodies. Once you accept the moment without fighting against it, you will then be filled with enormous power. This power will then allow you to make a reasonable decision about what to do next and you can handle the moment with grace and wisdom instead of upset and negativity.

2. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR RESPONSE.
Negative events happen to us all. The event may be out of your control, but your response is 100 percent your choice. Once you have accepted the moment, you now have the ability to respond accordingly. You have so much power right here in this moment to choose whether you are going to let something ruin your day or whether you are going to shake it off and MAKE it a great day. In every moment you get to choose your response. When you find yourself having a destructive response, realize that this is simply an old conditioned response from your past, and in the present you can choose a new response. It may be hard at first, but it is like doing push ups. The more you practice them, the better you get.

3. KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN.
Closing yourself off and protecting yourself is a normal human response. But be careful, if you close yourself off too many times you might be free from pain, but you will close yourself off from  joy, love, and beauty. The result of closing your heart is that you become cold and cranky. You become cynical, sarcastic, and biting.  You become so afraid of being hurt or disappointed, you don’t fully live your best life. When you allow the annoying and negative events of this world to flow through you, when you accept them, respond accordingly, and you keep your heart open, love flows back, and a sense of calm sweeps over you. Your stress dissolves and you are able to move on with your day.

In the end, whatever happens “to” you happens “for” you. When you keep yourself in the present moment, all unhappiness and stress naturally dissolve. Try it out for yourself and MAKE it a great day!

Live Happy,

Michele Phillips